Themes of the Week

It’s isolating to think and feel that no one else shares your problems, or that other people have got it “bad”, but you’ve got it the worst. It’s common to interact with other people and couples, and to compare yourself or your relationship with theirs. It’s common to scroll through someone’s instagram page and think this person has got their shit together, or they’re operating at a more functional level, or that their success seems seamless. The truth is, there isn’t much truth to this.

If I could offer one piece of advice to you this week, based on my sessions this week, it would be to check in with comparisons, and to be mindful of the life YOU are wanting to cultivate. Sit down with a pen and paper, and write out what’s important to you right now. What is your focus? How are you honouring this? Where can you adjust to sink in deeper to this focus? What’s it like to be in your body as you write this out? What thoughts or memories appear in your mind’s eye?

Many of us are holding high expectations of ourselves, without making space for how much this last year has truly taken a toll on our mental health- in particular. It’s okay to drop the expectations, even momentarily. It’s okay to feel more vulnerable and a little less resilient. It’s okay to take a break. It’s okay to be slow.

Take a breath.

Take another one.

Close your eyes and find the part of you that feels the safest, the most secure, eternal, or grounded. Or open your eyes, and find something in the space you’re in now, that you get the same felt sense from. Be with it. It’s your resource.

Jenna